When it comes to dating tips for women, one size doesn’t fit all.  As the leading matchmaking service in New Jersey, we have years of experience helping single women find love in NJ. Our expert matchmakers have compiled the top eight dating rules every woman must follow if they want to find love in today’s modern dating scene.  If you’re a little rusty, it’s time to brush up on your dating knowledge and skills so you can finally find the man of your dreams.

1.Know Your Non-Negotiables

Before you venture into the NJ dating scene, you need to know your instant deal breakers.  For example, if you don’t like cigarettes and only drink on special occasions and meet a guy who is a smoker or drinker, you need to move on immediately so you’re not wasting your time.  What are you not willing to put up with in a relationship?  What are the top things that are non-negotiable for you?  Keep in mind, this shouldn’t include physical attributes.  Focus solely on character traits, behaviors, and personality types.

2. Never Go After Someone Who Is Taken

You might think this tip is obvious, and hopefully it is, but there are some women out there who think nothing of chasing someone who is already in a committed relationship.  We don’t understand why anyone would think this is okay, but perhaps it has something to do with the “forbidden fruit” concept.  Going after someone else’s partner is never okay.  Find someone who is single and available.

3. Your Time Is Valuable. Don’t Waste It on Meaningless Dates

You only have so many free hours every week, so don’t waste that time on pointless dates.  Why waste your time dating the wrong men, especially when you already know their type?  If you’re dating someone just because you don’t want to be alone, stop right there because you’re making a huge mistake.  If you’re not interested in them, don’t waste your time or theirs.

4. Don’t Cancel Plans with Your Friends to See Him

Sure, it’s fun and exciting when you’re dating a new man, so it’s only natural to want to spend all your time with him.  Still, cancelling pre-made plans with your girls when he calls you is not okay.  You need to get your priorities in check.  Women who respect themselves never cancel plans with their gals.

5. If He’s Disrespectful, Walk Away

If you respect yourself, you’ll never let a man disrespect you.  The minute he is disrespectful to you, you need to stand up and walk away from him.  You don’t need to stick around and set him straight.  It’s not your job to do that.  You just need to completely remove yourself from this situation and find someone who is respectful of women.

6. Pay Attention to the Red Flags

You know that feeling you get when something isn’t right?  We urge you to listen to it in your dating life.  If your date can’t answer a simple question about where he works or what he does for fun, then chances are he’s lying to you about something.  Listen to your gut feeling, ladies.  The same goes for his behavior.  If he does something that just doesn’t feel right, walk away.

7. Be Emotionally Available

Maybe your past relationships didn’t turn out the way you wanted them to, or maybe you feel like every date in the past month was a dud.  Shake it off!  It’s still up to you to date with an open heart.  Of course, this is easier said than done since you don’t want to have your heart broken again.  However, if you want to find love, you must be available and vulnerable to date.

8. Have Fun with It

It’s normal to feel stressed out when all your friends are getting married and having children, but remember that everyone has their own life, and yours is different than theirs.  You don’t want to settle for whoever comes your way; therefore, let go of the pressure you place on yourself to lock down your next date as your future husband.  Instead, have fun with the dating process and enjoy it for what it is.  Believe us, once you ease up on yourself, Mr. Right will soon walk into your life.

There you have it, ladies, our top eight dating rules every woman needs to follow on the search for love.  Be brave, be true, and most importantly believe that your ideal match will soon come into your life.

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